I just want to say a few things. Please do your best to be kind to people that are struggling. Unless you know them personally, you can’t fully understand what they’re going through and exactly who they are. What’s right for you may not be the right choice for them. It doesn’t help anyone to be judgmental and outright cruel. The funny thing about words is that you can’t take them back once they leave your mouth or pen, and sometimes they can cut like a knife. You don’t want to be the one who causes more emotional damage for someone and possibly pushes them over the edge. Basically, treat someone as you would want to be treated yourself. That’s all I’m saying.
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BE KIND
AlwaysaSurvivor, it's sad that kindness is far and few between.
The other day as I had just pulled into a parking space, an older gentlemen
patiently waited for me to exit my car before getting into his.
As I got out, my knee gave out and I could hear him say "Be careful, don't rush".
Those words of kindness keep replaying in my mind. Empathy is still alive. xx
thanks for your reply and sharing. It helps me to continue believing in the goodness of people. Unfortunately my experience was on this forum with a very angry person. I will get past it though. Thank you again.
I’ve had a negative experience here as well, and I think some people don’t understand the potential long term impact their words have on others. I felt embarrassed and honestly, for a bit, anytime I posted on this site I would read and re read and often delete what I was going to say from the anxiety stemming from that unrelated incident.
Ultimately, I find that there are a lot of very caring, supportive people on here who respect and recognize that each person has their own emotional limitations. And I don’t mean limitations in a negative way, but how people react differently to the same content. What may not even emotionally register for one person could have a detrimental effect on another.
I’m sorry you had to go through something unpleasant in a place that is supposed to be a beacon of hope, community, and understanding.
But as I said, there are many wonderful and supportive people here who I have had very positive interactions with and I hope you stick around and find the same is true for yourself. ❤️
Thank you so much for your reply and as the saying goes one rotten apple doesn’t spoil the entire crop. I have been on here for a while actually. I just changed my username. Yes it was a very hurtful experience and I’m still feeling the effects of it, but I’m a strong person and I’ll get over it. I have encountered many caring and compassionate people on this site and I will continue to post and reply. I hope you have a good day.
I sometimes forget that I’m in a community with people who have varying degrees of mental health issues including me, of course. Some have good days and can control their emotions and have kindness for others and sometimes they have bad days and can’t. I do my best to have empathy for those on their bad days because I’ve walked in their shoes. I have sympathy for the ones that I haven’t. I say try because of my issues . Being targeted and bullied is a hard one to handle (I’ve been there). Many times I’ve had help from members to get through and I’ve learned in time, on my good days, to let bad situations here play themselves out and they usually do, one way or another. Sometimes I just have to take a break when all the sadness affects me. Sorry, I have a tendency to meander…..
We’re all struggling…..that’s why we’re here. 🏄♀️🍕
Thank you for your reply. It was very thoughtful and spot on. There are many good people on this site and sometimes a person can forget that we’re all struggling. I’ll get past what happened. I’m sure when I communicate with all those good people. Thanks again and enjoy your day.
Oh just read the rest of the comments.
I see you have been here before. Do you want to share what your previous name was please so your friends can identify you?
I do agree with what you say though and kindness costs nothing. I have found that if you are having issues with someone in pm its usually best to report it and mute them.
If its on the site then again report it. Abuse isn't allowed on here and the mods will act. Its honestly not worth getting yourself worked up over it though I know its very hard to ignore it, especially when you are feeling low yourself.
Welcome back anyway.
Yes, my previous username was stillstanding 53.
The verbal abuse and bullying was via pm and it was yesterday. It was hurtful and deliberate, and I’d like to just forget about it. I don’t think that person would have the audacity to reach out again, but should they decide to stupidly do so, I will handle it. Thank you for your concern.
Oh thank you for that, much appreciated. If you haven't already then report the member from the pm page, then click on mute.
That way you will never be able to see any pm's they might send you. I have done this to several people in the past who have been abusive or hassling me.
We don't need that on here or in pm after all.
That's a strange post for someone who joined today? Have you been here before under another name?